I chose this topic for one of my blog posts this week because it’s something I have experienced recently within the past couple of weeks. First of all, I want to start out with it’s human nature to be jealous. At some point in our lives, we have all been jealous of what someone else had or what they were going to get. Most of the time, I see people get more jealous over other people’s children. No one is perfect and just because whatever they had/have works for them doesn’t mean it would/will work for you too. As most of you know, I started homeschooling my children last week. My daughter is doing excellent! She can already do fractions, tell times, count money(coins), add & subtract, can read ,and knows the seasons. I’m not saying it hasn’t been a struggle and that we haven’t hit a few bumps in the road because we most certainly have. However, just because she can do all these things just in the first week or so doesn’t mean she’s better than anyone else or that she’s better than those who attend public/private school. It was her father & my decision to homeschool her and her brother. In my opinion, it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I see posts on my social media where parents are upset because their child has started school. I remember starting kindergarten and I cried the whole first day and my mom did too. It’s heartbreaking for both child and parent. I actually believe parents have a harder time adjusting to this new journey. However, just because your child had phase in days or started doing fun stuff first, doesn’t mean that my child isn’t. I made the decision after a couple of years of hearing others opinions and negative comments on how my child will be missing out on some of life’s important moments because I decided to homeschool her. I’ve heard comments that my children are going to hate me because they didn’t get that social interaction they needed starting at an early age and how they are going to be awkward or shy up into their adult years. I hate to say this, but they most certainly are wrong. You don’t have to like the decisions I make, Hell you don’t even have to agree with them. But you will respect them or you can find the door and walk right out of it. I guarantee my child won’t miss anything and they most certainly won’t struggle with you walking right out the same door you came in. My children are some of the best well-behaved children I have ever seen. I’m sure I’m a little bias because they are mine but I’ve been in the education field for almost seven years now and I’ve seen how a lot of other children behave. My parenting style isn’t the best and I make mistakes daily. I’m not sure I’m someone you even want to be jealous of. It’s a struggle everyday just like I mentioned in a previous post, parenting isn’t for the faint of heart. Jealous can be a cruel thing in this world and it’s something I believe is seen more now than it ever has been before. We all get jealous and that’s okay. It’s human nature and it’s something we are going to have to deal with. I think if I was so jealous of someone, I would try to think about all the positive things in my life and how each person, memory, material thing I have is why I’m blessed. If we spend our whole life being jealous of others, we will never appreciate what we have and will miss out on some of life’s most precious moments. I’m going to leave this blog post with one of my favorite quotes.
This week we started a new adventure–HomeSchooling. This is my daughter’s first year of school as well as my first year doing the homeschooling. If you had asked me before I had children if I would ever homeschool my kids the answer most likely would have been no. I attended public school from elementary all the way through high school. I never had an issue, always made friends, received good grades etc. I thought that going to a public school was a great way for social interactions and it helped with social/cognitive development. However, here in the past few years with all of the shootings and the placement of Common Core, school isn’t what it used to be. Things have definitely changed. I have always thought there were two things that shouldn’t be taught in school; the first being religion and the second being sex education. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to teach our children about religion and about safe sex. However, I think educating children on these two topics really falls on the parents. If a school teaches one religion, they have to teach them all. It’s always been better if parents are the teachers when it comes to sex education because you never want your child getting the wrong information or being misguided. We all have different beliefs and I’m a firm believer of not pushing your opinions/views on others. It’s okay to have different opinions and beliefs. That is one of the many things that make us all human. It’s okay to be unique and to not fit in. Sex is highly overrated and it’s definitely not something to take lightly. It’s a big decision and it can have major consequences. I would rather I teach my children those two topics so that I knew they were getting the right information. Unfortunately, we aren’t always going to be here to guide our children. That’s one of the many reasons for my post on how our parents give us roots but still have to set us free. I see so many of my friends on social media, sharing pictures of their child’s first day of school and it melts my heart. It’s an emotional rollercoaster being a parent. It’s definitely not for the faint of heart. Watching our children grow up in front of us is so rewarding but also heartbreaking at the same time. Now, I know what my parents went through all those years ago on my first day of school. It’s actually what they still probably go through on a daily basis. Homeschooling is a new journey for our family and it’s one that I will take pride in no matter how it turns out. If it ends up not working out or something happens then at least we can say we tried and it just wasn’t what was best for our family. Homeschooling isn’t for everyone and it might not even be for us. I do think it’s worth a try plus where else am I not going to be over qualified to do?! You have all this education under your belt but yet employers want people with experience. How do you suppose I get experience in the first place when no one will hire me without it?! As most people know, I am currently a grad student working on my Master’s Degree in Early Childhood Education and in the past I’ve been told that I’m overqualified for a position that I have applied for. It’s hard to take sometimes and it’s easier to take a step back and try a different path. Perhaps that one wasn’t meant for us and we are stuck at a crossroads. In the past couple of months, I’ve had the same question presented to me and today I believe I have found out why. The question is, “How do you do it?”. To elaborate, it’s more of how do you go to school full time, raise two children, take care of a household, work part-time/full time, and homeschool?! I would love to sit here and say it’s because I’m a badass but in all reality, I’m human just like everyone else. I have many flaws and I make mistakes daily but I’ll never give up and that’s a promise. I would like for my children to see that anything is possible and to never give up. Homeschool isn’t for everyone and I’m sure there’s a lot of families that would love to be able to have the opportunity to homeschool their children. I want to give it a try and I want to be able to watch my children learn new things everyday. To quote a good friend, The Lorax, “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
I’ve had a lot on my mind the past few weeks and that’s one of the reasons as to why I haven’t been updating. Thinking about it now though, I think it might have been better for me to write on the blog about everything that’s going through my mind. I chose the title of today’s blog post because this is something I am currently experiencing in my life. Surprisingly, I’m not experiencing this with my own children but with my family members. I never really understood what unconditional love was until I had my children. A mother’s love runs deep for her children and it’s something that should never fail her or them. It’s hard letting stuff go whether it’s relationships, a lost loved one, friendship etc. However, it’s even harder letting go of your child and allowing them to be the person they were meant to be. I’ve always been the quiet one and I’ve always listened and followed directions. I’ve never been the one to question authority or to go against people’s wishes. In all, I’m what most people call a “people pleaser”. I would rather see everyone else happy than seeing myself happy. Ever since I was younger, I’ve been put on a pedestal and everyone has always had high expectations for me. I was going to college and I was going to wait until marriage to have children and I was going to fall in love with someone I met in college and live happily ever after. However, life has a way of surprising us and putting exactly what we need in front of us. It’s up to us to grab it and run with it. So, that’s what I did. I fell in love at a young age and been in love every since. My love actually grows stronger each day especially when I look into the eyes of my children and see their father staring back at me. It’s like that old saying, We can’t help who we fall in love with. It just happens. We have two amazing children together who I would give my life for and we are ready to start trying for another baby. It’s okay if it’s not the right time for everyone else because it’s the right time for us and our family. I’ve recently learned that once we reach a certain age, it’s time for our parents to let us go and make our own mistakes. I know there’s not a single parent on this planet that wants their child to screw up and make mistakes. However, that’s a part of growing up and becoming who you are. As much as I love my children, I can’t control them forever. Sure, as they get older there’s going to be plenty of things that I’m not going to agree with. I will agree to disagree with them and say my peace and be done with it. Whatever, they decide to do after that is up to them and I will support them and be happy for them no matter what. If it all falls apart for them, I will stand by their side and be their support and protector for as long as they need. We are all human and we aren’t meant to agree on everything. Parents should be proud that they raised a strong, independent, strong-willed person who is more than capable of making their own decisions and living with the consequences. It’s hard letting go and I know from experience that it’s human nature to hold on as tight as we can to those we love. I’m not saying never talk to your parents or family members. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t voice your opinions to your children. I’m simply saying that as parents you gave us roots and now it’s time for us to spread our wings and fly. Watch us make you proud and even if we mess up accept us and support us anyways. It took me 25 years but I’ve finally learned that it’s not meant for me to please everyone. If I continue to worry about what everyone thinks then I’m never going to be happy. I would rather disappoint everyone then to disappoint myself again. I’ve heard a saying for my whole life and it never really clicked until now. “Those who matter don’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter.”
Hi everyone! It’s time for another product review! This week I received a #FreeSample of the Seventh Generation Free & Clear Laundry Detergent to try out! I was really impressed with the laundry detergent as it was the first fragrance free detergent I’ve tried. This product would be great for new parents who are worried/concerned about their newborn’s sensitive skin. I actually wish I had known about this product when I was expecting my children. By sampling some of the Seventh Generation products, I have fell in love with the brand and plan to use them especially if we are given the chance to expect another little one. I know as a parent it’s hard not to worry about the cost of everything your child needs especially as a newborn. I always wanted what was best and sometime it was hard to afford the best. I think this is a brand that can be trusted and they actually care about their customers and what they put in their products. I would recommend this product and this brand to anyone especially all of my mommy friends. It’s hard when you are trying to decide the best brand to use for your family and I know how it can be a trial and error type of decision too. We all want what’s best for our children and we strive everyday to make sure that happens.
I have recently joined a community online where I get to try products for free and I provide my honest opinion about the product. For this first time, I was mailed a trial/sample pack of Seventh Generation Free & Clear Wipes. These wipes are made for sensitive skin and are 100% fragrance free. These wipes are intended to use as diaper wipes. My children are in the preschool years so I used them to clean their hands and face after they had been eating chocolate! This was the first time I had tried this brand of wipes and I was actually really impressed with them. The wipes are soft and strong and they have cute designs on them. I know when my children were newborns and I would change them, there were times when they would become fussy. I would give them a diaper wipe to focus or chew on. I always thought to myself that maybe that wasn’t such a good idea because you never actually know what’s in those. However, I think with this brand you could do that without having the “fear of the unknown” or looking back on that moment and thinking maybe it wasn’t such a good idea. Seventh Generation does more than just wipes and I can’t wait to try out the rest of their products. This would be a great brand for first time parents to use and to continue to use as their child grows.
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So today, I found this on my Facebook page in one of the many “mom” groups that I’m a member of. I thought it really summed up my day because that is all I did all day long. I cleaned, picked up toys, did the dishes (multiple times), did laundry, picked up toys again, cleaned, watered flowers, checked the mail, took the trash out, picked up toys…again. It was a never-ending cycle. I was also trying to get stuff ready for our first yard sale this coming weekend. I forgot how exhausting it was trying to get everything together and trying to price stuff. Not to mention, how exhausting it is trying to do that while two little rugrats run around the house on a continuous loop. Every time, I would put something in the box to sell, my little one would take it right back out. Even though he hasn’t played with that toy in months maybe even a year. But as soon as mom pulls it out of the closet, it’s brand-new and he loves that toy so much! This is where one of those mottos of mine come into place. Pick your battles wisely. This saying goes with everything: parenting, teaching, grocery shopping, being a student, being a wife, being a mother etc etc. I finally just decided to quit getting things ready and to start cleaning the house again. I’ve heard so many people and read so many posts, where everyone questions if being a stay at home mom really counts as working. I never say anything and perhaps it’s something I should try. Just think about it this way, if we did absolutely nothing all day, do you honestly think the house and the kids would survive?! Stay at home moms deserve a lot more credit than what everyone gives them. It’s a constant job and one that I absolutely love. Don’t get me wrong it has it’s ups and downs that’s for sure. Some days, all I want to do is cuddle my little ones and watch “Moana” on repeat all day. While other days, a glass of wine doesn’t even cover it. But when life happens, it’s better to just go with it and keep living. Eventually, it’s going to stop for all of us so we might as well enjoy the ride while it last.
I’ve always found blogs interesting for many reasons. Most of them tell a story and it serves as an autobiography for the blogger. Others start blogs as a way to help others such as: couponing, parenting, gardening, freebies, product reviews etc. From all of the inspiration I’ve gotten, I have finally decided to have my own blog and just combine all of my inspirations together. I’ll blog about my children, being a full time parent, full time student, and having a full time job. I’ll blog about life’s ups and downs and how even through the tears, you still gotta find a way to smile. Life happens every single day and it happens to everyone in different ways. If I can use this blog to help others on parenting, education, freebies, coupons, products etc then I suppose I will have succeeded.